Frameworks
The frameworks held here do not function as models to be applied or concepts to be mastered.
hey are ethical orientations that emerge from lineage, passage, and fragmentation—ways of moving with grief and love after continuity has been broken.
They are not prescriptive.
They do not resolve contradiction.
They do not promise healing without cost.
They ask instead: How do we remain in relation—without possession, without erasure, without denial?
Lloronequis
How We Grieve
Lloronequis names grief as communal, ungendered, and relational.
Under colonial conditions, grief is often disciplined—privatized, feminized, or rendered pathological. Tears are permitted only in certain bodies, in certain spaces, and for certain losses. Lloronequis refuses this ordering.
Here, grief is not weakness or failure. It is a form of knowledge. It moves between bodies. It binds land, memory, and kinship. It registers what has been severed and what continues to ache.
Lloronequis does not ask grief to end.
It asks grief to be held.
Grief, here, is not an obstacle to life. It is evidence of connection.
Queerida
How We Love
Queerida articulates a relational ethic of belovedness beyond possession.
Colonial structures teach love as ownership, hierarchy, and control—who is entitled to care, whose attachments are legitimate, whose bonds are protected by law. Queerida disrupts this logic. Love, here, is not innocence or idealization. It is a practice shaped by rupture, accountability, and restraint. It does not seek to consume or claim. It seeks to remain. Queerida holds love as reciprocal rather than extractive.
Tender rather than triumphant.
Ethical rather than possessive. It asks how love can exist without domination, even under conditions that fracture trust.
Together
Lloronequis and Queerida are not opposites.
They are not sequential.
They do not resolve one another.
They operate together as a decolonial emotional ethic:
- Lloronequis names what has been lost.
- Queerida names how we continue to relate.
Grief without love risks collapse.
Love without grief risks denial.
Together, they make it possible to remain with what has been harmed—without turning away and without turning it into spectacle.
How These Frameworks Are Held
These frameworks are not owned. They are practiced.
They appear across clinical work, pedagogy, writing, and community-based healing—not as techniques, but as ethical commitments shaping how care is offered, how knowledge is shared, and how limits are honored.
They are offered here without instruction.
They are lived elsewhere, in context.
